But if Not: When Bad Things Threaten to Destroy Good People

Drawing on the faith of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-nego—"but if not"—licensed therapist Dennis Ashton and bereavement nurse Joyce Ashton offer comfort to Latter-day Saints facing loss and adversity. Blending gospel doctrine with professional grief counseling, they address spiritual injury, guilt, anger, depression, and the myth that faithful people are shielded from pain. Written from deep personal loss, including the deaths of two of their six children, this compassionate handbook validates suffering and offers practical, spiritual, and emotional tools for healing and finding meaning.

• Written by parents who buried two of their six children—this isn't theory, it's lived grief
• Dismantles the harmful myth that faithful people are shielded from tragedy
• Blends professional clinical grief counseling with gospel doctrine
• A practical field guide for ministering to the bereaved—including what NOT to say

Perfect for a grieving Latter-day Saint who has lost a loved one—or is enduring illness, divorce, or disability—and wonders why faith hasn't spared them from pain.