But If Not: Coping With Unexpected Loss - Volume 3

Written by grief counselors Joyce and Dennis Ashton, this third volume in the "But If Not" series addresses the unexpected losses that shake faithful lives: abuse, addiction, divorce, rebellious children, unwed pregnancy, infertility, adoption, same-gender attraction, aging, and empty nest. Drawing on the Ashtons' own family tragedies and decades of professional experience, each chapter blends personal stories, statistics, scripture, and LDS leaders' counsel with practical coping tools. The recurring message: God can deliver us—but if not, we can still choose faith, hope, and healing.

• Written by a nurse and a clinical social worker who lived nearly every loss they write about
• The 'but if not' message: God can deliver you—but even if He doesn't, faith endures
• A single volume covering the losses no one talks about at church—abuse, addiction, divorce, same-gender attraction
• Pairs professional counseling tools with scripture and prophetic counsel

“We knew God could deliver Darren from his suffering, but if not we would continue to believe in and serve God.”

Perfect for a faithful Latter-day Saint adult struggling with a painful trial—abuse, addiction in the family, divorce, infertility, a wayward child, or same-gender attraction—who wonders why righteous living didn't spare them and needs both spiritual comfort and practical resources.