What Kate Middleton’s Hairdresser Should Say to Her on Her Wedding Day

Today we have a guest post from author Sherri Mills. Her book, “I Almost Divorced My Husband But Went On Strike Instead,” is set for a June 2011 release. Mills has been a hairdresser for over forty years and married for forty-two. After being a “psy-cosmetologist” for her clients, she has sound advice on how to have a great marriage. With the Royal Wedding almost here, Mills shares some of her advice for the future princess, Kate Middleton.

Who better to share marital advice with Kate Middleton than a hairdresser who has followed the inside dramas of hundreds of families for years in the salon? As she preps her hair, she will be adding sage advice for a successful marriage. First and foremost: marry with determination in your hearts that both of you will do whatever is necessary to make your marriage work. Banish any thoughts of “if this marriage doesn’t work, we can always divorce.“ Avoid divorce at all costs.

This may sound simplistic and possibly premature considering the marriage is only about to begin. However, even in a royal wedding, if the couple knew the immediate and continuing costs of divorce — not just financially but emotionally to them and their children (who will be added to the mix) — at the first sign of trouble, they would race to a marriage counselor and do whatever else is necessary to avoid divorce.

As she puts the finishing touches on the princess’ hair, she will add these words of wisdom for a happy marriage for Kate, Prince William, and their future children.

  1. Start your marriage with a small (or large!) card and write every good quality you see in your prince. Don’t leave anything out, not even something as minor as, “he brushes his teeth every day.” Whenever you are thinking your prince is a jerk, take that card out and read again why you fell in love.
  2. Don’t expect your prince to read your mind. Express yourself and be specific. Express dis-satisfactions early while they are small so you can speak lovingly. Don’t let them become big resentments.
  3. Accept imperfection. Perfection is difficult, even for a prince.
  4. Don’t resent your prince for forgetting your birthday, anniversary, etc. Men do that all the time. They need to be reminded. Remind him!
  5. Make sure that your need to be right doesn’t sabotage getting the results you want.
  6. Compromise. It is his royal house too. If a man’s home is his castle, what kind of a castle do you think it would be if he were told on a regular basis how to live in it?
  7. The grass is seldom greener on the other side of the palace. Too often we might compare our prince’s bad qualities with someone else’s good qualities. Chances are if we compared the bad qualities of both, our very own prince just might be a keeper.
  8. Post the serenity prayer in different places around the palace: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to be able to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Very often we spin our wheels trying to change things that are impossible to change in the ones we love.

What advice do you have for the future princess?

You can pre-order “I Almost Divorced My Husband But Went On Strike Instead” at Amazon.com and Barnesandnoble.com.

11 thoughts on “What Kate Middleton’s Hairdresser Should Say to Her on Her Wedding Day

  • April 21, 2011 at 11:44 am
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    I love your advice. Sometimes we do compare unfavorably. Giving you husband the benefit of the doubt always works. Before making a snap judgement, it’s a good idea to ask “why”? I find the answers are surprising and sometimes make sense. :0)

  • April 23, 2011 at 7:31 pm
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    Excellent advice! Glad to see someone says “stick it out” rather than just divorce. Hopefully, Kate will heed this advice and she and William will be together for a very long time.

  • April 25, 2011 at 2:33 pm
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    Why would anyone take your advice when you have two out of three of your own children divorce!

    • April 26, 2011 at 6:33 am
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      The skyrocketing divorce rate has to stop. I have seen first hand how the children suffer. May God bless you Cherie. (My ex daughter in law.)

      • April 26, 2011 at 1:42 pm
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        Way to go, Sherri!. You said it much nicer than I would have.

  • April 26, 2011 at 8:41 am
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    Maybe Sheri’s children wouldn’t be divorced if they had taken her advice. We seldom get children to listen to parents.

  • April 26, 2011 at 10:32 am
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    Sheri you are a great friend, second mom, fantastic hairdresser, and most important the one person you can count on for great advice! Can’t wait for the rest of the world to hear what you have to say! I know your help will give couples out there in this crazy world some “good directions”. You are the BEST!! Thanks for all the good talkins you have given me…lol! LOVE YA 😉

  • April 26, 2011 at 11:17 pm
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    How I wish I would have had this book at my beck and call in my early years of marriage!! Could have saved me some serious stress. However, I KNOW that even after almost 30 years of marriage, your sage advice will still come in handy. There is wisdom in your words.
    I plan to gift this book to my daughter and future daughter-in-law so they can all start out on the right foot when the time comes.
    You are so right when you stated how children suffer from divorce and this can be avoided if marriages begin with good, sound advice about the REAL realities of “after the honeymoon” set in.
    Lyle is correct in saying children seldom listen to their own parents.They are much more apt to “listen” to words in a book or article, or friends who unknowingly have false expectations or no real knowledge of what they speak of.
    We do not live in a perfect world, and our kids make their own decisions….we can help them make better decisions by arming them with sage advice and real life experiences you have garnered through your years of being a “psy-cosmetologist”. Kudos to you for writing this book!!!

  • April 27, 2011 at 7:03 pm
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    Congrats on your success! Sounds like we could all benefit from your years of wisdom. Divorce is so hard
    on children and closed minds and steadfast hard feelings like your ex-daughter in-laws help no one. Good for you to take the high road. Best wishes and God Bless YOU!

  • April 29, 2011 at 10:50 pm
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    Absolutely Wonderful Advice!! If only every woman could have someone to tell them this from the beginning, just imagine how many successful marriages there would be today. I cannot wait to have my very own copy of your book for daily reading!! A blessing to wives and mothers everywhere.

  • May 1, 2011 at 8:29 pm
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    It is so refreshing to know someone can see the value in sticking it out. It is so much better for children to have original parents. I think this book will be a Godsend to many many people. The me generation might be gone as we give more thought to our children.

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